The author argues that just as there are Jewish alcoholics and Jewish drug addicts, there are also violence and sexual abuse in normative Jewish homes. The connection between substance abuse and sexual abuse is becoming clearer. Those who abuse alcohol or drugs do so because, to some degree, they feel powerless. How better to gain power than by abusing someone with even less power? Furthermore, if an adult suffers from guilt and shame because of his/ her drug or alcohol abuse, how likely it must be for a child to become the target of physical or sexual abuse as a release from the parent's guilt. Then, to relieve the guilt and shame, a parent turns to more numbing alcohol or drugs. The cycle is vicious.