What does being Jewish enable you to do or think or feel that others cannot do (or think or feel)? Breaking a glass at your wedding? That's a practice that's catching on among others. Being a Buddhist? There are actually people who are born into Buddhism. It's a puzzle. And maybe therein lies the clue: Maybe being a Jew means grasping that puzzle, understanding a lack of understanding, the difference between commandments and suggestions or why ''Jewish atheist'' is not an oxymoron.