The tragedy of Dr. Izzeldin Abuelaish, a doctor and father of three girls killed by an Israeli tank in Gaza, can teach much about the cycle of violence and hatred in Israel. Even after Dr. Abuelaish's tragedy, he remains a defender of peace and reconciliation. It is puzzling that those who have heard him tell his story have expressed such intense surprise at his steadfastness. As if the "normal" response is unmitigated anger, a resolute commitment to revenge and retribution. Do we assume that in a confrontation between hate and hope, it is hate that must prevail? The answer to blood is not more blood, it is to bind up the wounds and to seek, somehow, to love our neighbors as ourselves.